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...tangled ramblings...

Jan 4
1 min

Sorry ....

Hello, and sorry for the absence. Life has completely taken over of late, and I've done something I rarely do and put my self care first...

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Nov 22, 2021
1 min

The Value Of "I Get It"

Grieving is a very lonely affair. For the moments before the funeral, I genuinely felt a little bit of hope that my future would be made...

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Nov 20, 2021
3 min

For Good - An Open Letter

To my darling husband, I have always felt incredibly lucky to have met you, you really were the yin to my yang, so different yet we...

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Nov 19, 2021
2 min

Sharing Grief

A few months after my husband died, I was offered the opportunity to go to a grief support group. I have to be honest and say I wasn’t...

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Nov 18, 2021
2 min

Alone v Lonely

This is something I've often reflected on, as I have felt both alone and lonely, and there really is a distinct difference. I felt alone...

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Nov 17, 2021
2 min

Good Things To Say To The Grieving

So, really, this is a Helping Others Understand post, and a lovely little follow up from yesterday, where I talked about what not to say....

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Nov 16, 2021
5 min

Bad Things To Say To The Grieving

I can already feel my blood boiling as I begin to compose this blog today. Although, I do want to add that I don't think people really...

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Nov 15, 2021
2 min

Those Dreaded Holidays

This might sound really bah humbug, but I can genuinely say I really hate holidays. All of them. New Years Day, Valentine's Day, Easter...

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Nov 14, 2021
3 min

Guilt - The Truth

This one is a killer. It still haunts me now. You’ll have seen this in To My Newly Dead Husband, my letter written to my husband. Raw and...

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Nov 13, 2021
1 min

Letting Go v Holding On

All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.” ~ Henry Ellis This is so true. It's a tricky one, trying to...

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...about me...

Hello!

I am so glad you found this website! I hope that you find it useful. As you might have guessed by the title of the website, I am a widow, 8 years in on my journey now.

If you'd like to read a little more about me, and my journey, please click here

I hope you find the site helpful, and I'd always welcome your comments on how it can be improved. I have lots of plans, but these things take time alongside a full time job, so please stick around as the site grows :)

With love always,

the reluctant widow x

support & helpful links

Some things are worth talking to someone about. If you are struggling or know someone who is, take a look at these organisations that may be able to help.

Many of my followers on the reluctant widow facebook page are not widows, or widowers. They are friends and family of someone who has experienced deep grief, so I wanted to have a dedicated space full of links and places you might find support.

On behalf of those people, I just want to thank you for caring enough to not just say you'll be there for them, you're actually searching for ways to really be there. You rock x

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