Good Things To Say To The Grieving


So, really, this is a Helping Others Understand post, and a lovely little follow up from yesterday, where I talked about what not to say.


One of my favourite things for people to say, that just felt like a giant hug wrapped up in words, was,

"I am so sorry, I don't know what to say".


It just felt amazing for people to acknowledge that there wasn't a holy grail answer to how I was feeling, there were no magic words that would make my pain stop and bring back my smile, grief isn't that simple, and words just sometimes aren't enough.


A big hug is magical too, just being held in a tight embrace, it feels like someone "has you", holding you close and has your back.


The simplest of things, the biggest impact.


Below is a list of best things to say from David Kessler's website, www.grief.com


I have found this site so useful throughout my journey.


1. I am so sorry for your loss

2. I wish I had the right words, just know I care

3. I don’t know how you feel, but I am here to help in any way I can

4. You and your loved one will be in my thoughts and prayers

5. My favourite memory of your loved one is…

6. I am always just a phone call away

7. Give a hug instead of saying something

8. We all need help at times like this, I am here for you

9. I am usually up early or late, if you need anything

10. Saying nothing, just be with the person


What else would you add to the list of things that you have found supportive? Add in the comments below.

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