Stand Tall, and Find The Sunlight

I love sunflowers. Not just because they're so pretty, but also because when the sun is out, they turn their head towards the sun.

Amazing, right? They seek out the sunshine. If there was such a thing as a spirit flower, this is mine.

Grieving is hard. It's exhausting. It can leave you feeling like you're sat in a dark hole, without sunshine. It's a horrible place to be.

I see a sunflower as a sign of hope. An inspiration. No matter what we're feeling, keep trying to be tall, and find the sunshine, no matter what.

My grief has given me the darkest and brightest times in my life. After the death of my husband, I was determined not to waste a day longer being scared of things.

I was in a job I hated but was scared to move. I found a new job.

I was terrified of needles. So I got a tattoo.

I had never travelled alone. I was terrified of flying. Even the local flight from London to Manchester sent my heart a fluster. So I started to travel. I went to USA, because if I could survive a 13 hour flight, I could do anything.

These things make me proud. They were all terrifying but I did them. I found the light from the darkest place I'd ever been.

These things give me hope that I can keep being brave, and being adventurous. These things made me feel strong. I did them, not because I was talked into it by someone else, but because I wanted to.

On my bedroom wall, I have 3 photos on my wall, one for each US trip. They remind me that I can do whatever I want, if only I can find deep and find the courage.

Our limitations are set only by us, and we can break them, if we choose, and when we're ready.

After my husband's death, there's no way I'd ever have believed I'd be able to be brave ever again, and if you'd told me then that I'd end up travelling alone, I'd have laughed at you.

We have already experienced the worst thing ever. The death of someone we love. We are survivors.

Never forget your own strength, and keep growing, a little bit day by day, and know the sunshine is out there for you, when you are ready.

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